Ikonomou v. Ikonomou

• Decision Date: 05 September 1989
• Docket Number: No. 55125,55125
• Citation: Ikonomou v. Ikonomou, 776 S.W.2d 868 (Mo. App. 1989)
• Parties: Diane F. IKONOMOU, Appellant, v. Demetre IKONOMOU, Respondent.
• Court: Missouri Court of Appeals

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776 S.W.2d 868

Diane F. IKONOMOU, Appellant, v. Demetre IKONOMOU, Respondent.

No. 55125.

Missouri Court of Appeals,

Eastern District,

Division Three.

Sept. 5, 1989.

Mark Howard Kruger, Clayton, for appellant.

Merle L. Silverstein, Harry Charles, Rosenblum, Goldenhersh, Silverstein & Zofft, Clayton, for respondent.

SIMON, Chief Judge.

Diane F. Ikonomou, Wife, appeals from a decree of dissolution of her marriage to Demetre Ikonomou, Husband.

Wife contends that the court erred in: (1) awarding custody of the three minor female children to Husband, because the best interests of said children require that their custody be awarded to her; (2) valuing and distributing the marital assets because the values and distribution are inequitable and are unduly weighted in favor of Husband; and (3) improperly adopting, verbatim, Husband's proposed decree of dissolution because the adoption of a party's decree is inconsistent with established Missouri law. We affirm.

Our standard of review of a dissolution proceeding is well established. We shall affirm the trial court's decree if it is supported by substantial evidence, is not against the weight of the evidence, and the trial court correctly declared and applied the law. We should exercise the power to set aside a decree as against the weight of the evidence with caution and with a firm belief that the decree is wrong. Murphy v. Carron, 536 S.W.2d 30, 32[1-3] (Mo. banc 1976). Here, the trial court did not make findings of facts or conclusions of law, thus, all facts are deemed found in accordance with the result reached. Ellis v. Ellis, 747 S.W.2d 711, 714[1-4] (Mo.App.1988). As trier of fact, it is the duty of the trial court to decide the weight and value to be given to the testimony of any witness. Wynn v. Wynn, 738 S.W.2d 915, 918 (Mo.App.1987). On appeal, we view the evidence in a manner favorable to the decree and disregard contrary evidence. We defer to the trial court even if the evidence could support a different conclusion. Id.

Pursuant to these principles, we shall set forth a brief statement of facts. Additional facts will be presented in our discussion of Wife's points on appeal. Wife and Husband were married on July 18, 1970. Four children were born of their marriage: John, born February 15, 1971; Anastasia, June 10, 1975; Katrina, April 6, 1978; and Elizabeth, December 9, 1981.

Wife left Husband several times during the marriage, and on September 9, 1986, the date of her final departure, Wife filed her petition for dissolution of marriage.

When the parties separated for the final time, Wife took her three daughters and left the son with Husband. At a pendente lite hearing on February 5, 1987, the trial court awarded temporary custody of the daughters to Wife and custody of the son to Husband. This order remained in effect until the entry of the decree of dissolution on June 21, 1988, at which time the trial court awarded custody of the four children to Husband. The trial court divided the marital property, awarding the home to Husband, and ordering him to execute a $30,000.00 promissory note to Wife representing her interest in the home. The trial court found that Husband's tailor business had no sale value, thus Wife received no interest in the business.

In her first point, Wife contends that the trial court erred in awarding custody of the three daughters to Husband, because that order is not supported by substantial evidence, and the weight of the evidence and the best interests of the daughters require that Wife receive custody.

In the matter of determining child custody, the trial court is vested with broad discretion. In re Marriage of Mihalovich, 659 S.W.2d 798, 801[2, 4] (Mo.App.1983). When a determination of custody is to be made, the ultimate test is that of what is in the best interest of the child. Upon review of the trial court's actions, we presume that the court examined the evidence thoroughly and ordered what it believed to be in the best interests of the child. Ellis, 747 S.W.2d at 714[1-4].

Wife's contention rests heavily upon testimony from her expert witness, a psychologist, Dr. Wells Hively. Dr. Hively testified that he evaluated the girls and Wife on three occasions, and he concluded that Wife's home was best suited for the emotional and psychological development of the daughters. However, Dr. Hively conceded that the girls each expressed an important bond with their father; that they have affection for him, and they described happy things they do with him. Dr. Hively admitted that the fact that the girls had been separated from their father for over one year might be a contributing factor to their worry about living with him. He also stated that Wife has tendencies to be "a little on the hysterical side."

Additionally, Wife relies on testimony from her 12 year old daughter, Anastasia, who testified that she and her sisters preferred to live with Wife. While the wish of the child is a factor to be considered by the court, it is but one factor. It is not conclusive, but is to be weighed with all other relevant factors. M v. M, 688 S.W.2d 384, 385 (Mo.App.1985).

A family friend, testified that Wife was "always trying to pull the children to her side," that she would tell the children that she was the "nicest mother" and Husband was the "meanest father," and she always made Husband out to be the "monster of the family." The friend also said that Wife mocked Husband in front of the children and made fun of Husband's accent. Conduct of one parent which seeks to instill disrespect or destroy affection of the children for the other parent is strongly condemned and may be grounds for denying custody. In re Marriage of J---- H---- M----, 544 S.W.2d 582, 586[3, 4] (Mo.App.1976).

In Wells v. Wells, 117 S.W.2d 700, 705 (Mo.App.1938), the court concluded that the preference of a 12 year old girl to be in the custody of the father should not be used as a guide in determining to which of the parents her custody should be awarded, where the father had pampered the child and had from time to time attempted to embitter the child against her mother. Also, in McBride v. McBride, 579 S.W.2d 388, 390 (Mo.App.1979), we recognized that "children can be enticed by one parent from the other by many factors, including the desire of a child to get away from strong discipline. In considering the wishes of the child, it is important to ascertain and evaluate the basis for these wishes, so that the court can properly place this element in its proper perspective in deciding what is in the best interest of the child." Id. Here, as in McBride, the record reveals extensive conversation between the trial court and Anastasia as to her past and present life. Anastasia testified that she and her sisters do not like to be in their father's home because he shouts at them, there is nothing to do, and they do not like to "do the dishes." She said that she washes the dishes in her mother's home, but they use paper plates, so there are fewer dishes to wash.

Additional evidence includes testimony concerning Wife having had an extramarital affair in the home while the children were outside playing, her refusal to change her working hours so that she could be home to help with the children in the morning, and the fact that she uprooted the children three times and left Husband without notice. Morals are a pertinent factor to be taken into account in determining whose custody will serve the best interests of the child. Hartig v. Hartig, 738 S.W.2d 160, 161[2, 3] (Mo.App.1987). Providing a good environment and stable home is the most important consideration in custody cases. R v. R, 685 S.W.2d 598, 602[1, 2] (Mo.App.1985). Furthermore, if Wife receives custody of her daughters, they would be separated from their brother, John. Absent exceptional circumstances, the children should not be separated. In re Marriage of Mihalovich, 659 S.W.2d at 801[2, 4].

The trial court determined that both parties were guilty of marital misconduct, but that most of the misconduct was on Wife's part in terms of the number of times she left Husband. The trial court concluded that neither parent was unfit to be custodian, but that Husband was "more fit" and "better able to address the psychological and emotional needs of the children." Where evidence does not preponderate in favor of either party, the trial court is vested with broad discretion in awarding custody. In re Marriage of J------ H------ M------, 544 S.W.2d at 587. The record reveals substantial evidence to support the trial court's custody order. Thus, we do not find that the trial court erred in awarding custody of the three daughters to Husband.

In her second point, Wife claims that the trial court erred in the valuation and distribution of the marital assets because they are not supported by substantial evidence, they are against the weight of the evidence, they are inequitable, and they are heavily and unduly weighed in favor of Husband.

First, Wife disputes the valuation of the marital home, which the parties purchased in April, 1986. The parties had paid $60,000.00 of the...