Fort v. Fort

• Citation: 12 Mass.App.Ct. 411,425 N.E.2d 754
• Parties: Lawrence FORT v. Louise L. FORT (and a companion case).
• Decision Date: 29 October 1981
• Court: Appeals Court of Massachusetts

Page 754

425 N.E.2d 754

12 Mass.App.Ct. 411

Lawrence FORT v. Louise L. FORT (and a companion case).

Appeals Court of Massachusetts, Middlesex.

Argued March 30, 1981.

Decided Sept. 11, 1981.

Further Appellate Review

Denied Oct. 29, 1981.

Thomas J. Urbelis, Boston, for Louise L. Fort.

David G. Stern, Boston, for Lawrence Fort.

Before ARMSTRONG, PERRETTA and DREBEN, JJ.

ARMSTRONG, Justice.

On cross-complaints of the husband and wife for divorce, judgments were entered which dissolved the marriage, made provision for alimony and equitable division of assets, and awarded custody of the two minor children to the husband. The only matter at issue in this appeal is the wife's contention that the judge erred in awarding custody of the youngest child, now eight years old, to the husband, who is cohabiting with an unmarried woman. Whether such a living arrangement should preclude an award of custody to the offending parent, and, if not, the significance, if any, which should be assigned to that factor in determining custody, are questions which have been presented in this and at least three other cases argued during the court year just concluded. See Bouchard v. Bouchard, --- Mass.App. --- ^a, 422 N.E.2d 471; Kelly v. Kelly, --- Mass. --- ^b, 425 N.E.2d 760 (1981); Davisson v. Davisson, --- Mass.App. --- ^c, 425 N.E.2d 762 (1981). ¹

The facts of the present case were found by a master and will be recounted only briefly. The parties are in their mid-forties. They were married in 1959 and had three children: a girl, born in 1961, who now attends college and treats the father's home as her home when college is not in session; a son born in 1963, who is a boarding student at a private secondary school and who, by his preference and with the agreement of the parties, lives with the father when school is not in session; and a second son, Edward, who was born in 1973, around whose custody the dispute centers.

The husband's successful business career has demanded long hours and caused him to be away from home for extended periods of time. The job of housekeeping and child-rearing fell almost exclusively to the wife. Nothing in the record suggests that she was not a concerned and conscientious parent, but she appears to have fallen into conflicts of a deep seated nature with the daughter and, to some extent, the older son. The master found that the children perceive a preference on her part for the younger son, and for both sons over the daughter. Her discipline has sometimes expressed itself in inappropriate acts of corporal punishment and acts and words that could only result in the humiliation and emotional estrangement of the children. No purpose would be served by citing particulars; on the basis of so much of the evidence as has been furnished to us (the order of reference, untypically, required the evidence to be reported), we have concluded that the master's findings, adopted by the judge, that the wife's volatile behavior has been a source of upset and polarization within the family for many years, that it has been a source of mental and emotional disturbance to the family members, and that the husband, by contrast, has a steady, even temperament well suited to the emotional needs of the children, are not without support in the evidence.

The master found that the "precipitating cause" of the separation of the parties was the husband's involvement with a twenty-five year old woman who was formerly an employee at his place of business. He commenced sexual relations with her shortly before he left the marital home in Sudbury in April, 1979, when he moved with her into an apartment in Winchester, still their home at the time of the trial. She was married when the relationship commenced but was divorced in September, 1979.

At the time of the master's report the wife had custody of Edward. It was the husband's hope, if he were awarded custody, to move to a larger apartment or house where he, the woman, and the three children could live together. Because of the woman's job, some arrangement would have to be made for Edward's care by day until he was old enough to go to boarding school. The master found that "there was no testimony that either the separation or (the woman's) presence has adversely affected any of the children, as there is evidence that the wife's conduct over many years has adversely affected the children ...."

The judge adopted the master's report and followed his recommendation in awarding custody of Edward to the husband. The wife appealed. Her motion to stay the judgment nisi was denied. The wife was to have custody of Edward to August 25, 1980. We assume the husband has had custody since that time.

The wife relies primarily in this appeal on a much-discussed Illinois case, Jarrett v. Jarrett, 78 Ill.2d 337, 36 Ill.Dec. 1, 400 N.E.2d 421 (1979), cert. denied, 449 U.S. 927, 101 S.Ct. 329, 66 L.Ed.2d 155 (1980). There, the trial court had granted a divorce, awarding custody of the three minor children (12, 10 and 7) to the wife. Several months later the wife's boyfriend moved into the house, and the husband petitioned for a modification of custody for that reason. The trial court modified its judgment, transferring custody to the husband. The Illinois Appellate Court reversed, holding that it was improper to conclude that the wife's cohabitation "constitutes such a disregard for community standards as to endanger her children's moral well-being" in the absence of more specific evidence that the relationship was "having a negative effect on the children." Jarrett v. Jarrett, 64 Ill.App.3d 932, 936-937, 21 Ill.Dec. 718, 382 N.E.2d 12 (1978). The Illinois Supreme Court reversed by a split decision, holding that the exemplary effect on the children of the mother's continuing conduct in violation of Illinois statutes justified the change of custody. Here the conduct of the custodial parent is the same and is in apparent violation of three Massachusetts statutes: G.L. c. 272, § 16 (lewd and lascivious cohabitation, a felony); G.L. c. 272, § 14 (adultery, a felony, applicable until the expiration of both nisi periods); and G.L. c. 272, § 18 (fornication, a misdemeanor, applicable when both divorces are absolute). In this case, as in the Jarrett case, there is no question that either of the natural parents is "unfit," as used in G.L. c. 201, § 5. ²

We assume at the outset that there can be cases in which a court may take into account in determining custody the moral fitness or character of a proposed custodian as a factor bearing on the best interests and well-being of the child. Such cases will, however, be relatively unusual. Our courts must serve a society comprised of groups that are widely disparate in cultural background and moral and religious outlook. The judges who must ultimately determine disputes over custody have the same disparities of outlook as the society they serve. Obviously the individual judge cannot hold up his own moral and religious views as the standard against which he determines the moral fitness of the proposed custodian, for different judges would make conflicting determinations, and "the judicial branch of government, with respect to (custody disputes), would become a government of men and not of laws." Reddington v. Reddington, 317 Mass. 760, at 765, 59 N.E.2d 775. Thus, in the usual case, judges should avoid making moral judgments on the lifestyles of proposed custodial parents, recognizing that such judgments are appropriate only when it can be shown that a parent's lifestyle has a direct and articulable adverse impact on the child, or where there can be no real dispute in the circumstances of the particular case that the behavior of the custodial parent is related to his or her parenting ability.

What, then, of the fact that the lifestyle of the husband in this case is in admitted and continuing violation of certain of the criminal statutes mentioned above? ³ Does that fact lift the case out of the realm where a judge must avoid moral judgment and make appropriate a consideration of the more speculative impacts, such as the moral example and the possibility of ridicule or humiliation?

The answer to that question must turn largely on a fact that we feel we can appropriately notice from our own collective judicial experience: namely, that the crimes of fornication, adultery, and lewd and lascivious cohabitation are never, or substantially never, made the subject of prosecution. We are not speaking here of a condition of merely sporadic enforcement, explainable, perhaps, by limited police resources or difficulties in securing evidence. We are speaking of an apparent consensus among law enforcement officials that such behavior is best not proceeded against criminally. Except for traffic offenses, it is difficult to think of any crimes of which evidence comes to the attention of law enforcement officials with greater regularity, whether through divorce actions which are based on, or otherwise concern, marital infidelities; paternity suits; ⁴ prosecutions for rape (in the traditional sense ⁵), where the defendant asserts consent; public assistance programs which aid unmarried mothers; publicly administered child protection and adoption programs; publicly funded abortions; or tort actions for alienation of affections or criminal conversation (Doe v. Doe, --- Mass. --- ^d, 390 N.E.2d 730 (1979)). Despite widespread official knowledge of such violations, prosecutions by law enforcement officials are essentially non-existent. Particularly noteworthy are the cases where a person prosecuted for rape admits intercourse and alleges consent. Juries are regularly instructed that, if they have not been satisfied beyond a reasonable doubt that the complainant did not consent, they must return a verdict of not guilty. So far as we are aware no prosecutor has requested, and no judge has given, an instruction on fornication as a lesser included offense (compare State v. Saunders,...